top of page

No, Love Isn't Always Love

A few weeks ago, I went to the store and bought a new coffee maker. When I brought it home and set it up, I threw away the directions because no one was going to tell me what to do with MY coffee maker. So, instead of ground coffee, I put ground turkey in the filter (eww). Yes, it was my choice to make—but I wasn’t happy with the results.

The latest misinformation campaign that inundates us every time we watch a commercial on TV or walk into a coffee shop is the notion that “love is love.” The implication is, of course, that all romantic relationships are created equal. It doesn’t matter who you love because we can’t choose our romantic attractions, they choose us.

On the surface, this sounds legitimate. As individuals, we have been granted free will by our Creator, and we have the right and responsibility to make our own decisions. No one likes to be told what to do and how to do it. It’s part of our dark, human nature.

Yes, it’s true. You are your own person and can make any choice you would like. But how it is working out for you?

Suddenly, the laws of nature that have governed the previous millennia, in every culture in every country on the planet, are contested.

Many in our society have bought the lie that “love is love.” They have rebelled against social norms and against God only to find that, like my really gross cup of coffee, they are not happy with the results.

How do we know this? Look at the following statistics:

  • Same-sex couples who marry are more likely to divorce—61% file annually for divorce compared to 41% of first marriages for heterosexual couples (U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, 2022).

  • The median duration of marriages between two females is 4.1 years and 4.3 years for two males, according to Finances Online website. The average length of marriage for heterosexual couples who divorce is 8.2 years.

  • Fidelity rates among homosexual males are extremely low—only 4.5% remain faithful compared to 75.5% for married heterosexual men. (In one study, 28% of homosexual men admitted to having more than 1,000 partners.)

Suicide is a very serious threat among the LGBTQIA+ community, particularly youth under the age of 18:

  • A Canadian study estimated that the suicide risk for youths in this demographic is 14 times higher than heterosexual youth. Read the full study here.

  • Tragically, 82% of transgender youth have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide, according to

Normalizing the Natural

In contrast to this heartbreaking picture just painted for you, we understand that God created the natural order for our protection. The family unit was designed to benefit all involved. If you missed my earlier post touting the health and wellness benefits of traditional marriage, you can read it here.

The pattern established in Genesis—He created us male and female, and marriage is between one man and one woman in a committed relationship—is the foundation for healthy, sustainable relationships. Coloring outside the lines when it comes to sexuality is a recipe for broken families, heartbreak, and depression.

Winners and Losers

The troubling truth is that when governments and people in power attempt to subvert the natural order, they arbitrarily select winners and losers. Instead of all parties enjoying our God-given benefits and protections, the weakest ones in that society are always the ones who suffer.

Guess who wins? Not us. Those in power benefit the most.

For example, who benefits from the legalization of gay marriage? Not necessarily the couples, apparently, as the statistics bear out. But the wedding industry saw an increase of $16.8 billion. Local economies benefit from the increased tax revenue, also. New York City alone collected an additional $142 million in taxes as a result of legalizing same-sex marriage.

Considering the average cost for a divorce, including attorney’s fees, is $12,900, that industry experienced a big bump, also. See the study here.

And who wins when transgenderism is glamorized and promoted? Clearly not the young boy or girl struggling to fit in with their peers. The medical industry and pharmaceutical companies, on the other hand, estimate the earnings to be $1.4 million per transitioning child over their lifetime because of all the medications and follow-up appointments.

See the video here of Dr. Shayne Taylor of Vanderbilt University explaining how transgender surgery is a “big money maker.”

Catastrophically, it’s our kids who pay the ultimate price when government and powerful corporations “play god” as they attempt to redefine biology and human behavior.

Pushing Back

In addition to the other horrific consequences listed above, the “love is love” propaganda is being used to legitimize sexually molesting children. Instead of calling these predators pedophiles, some are advocating for the use of the politically correct term—“minor-attracted persons.”

Again, the notion is that individuals don’t get to choose who they are attracted to.

In case you haven’t noticed, we are in a deep, dark, spiritual battle. And the first casualty of war is the truth.

Even back in 2018, Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg favored decriminalizing pedophilia and child sex trafficking. Read the graphic account of what she deemed acceptable behavior, including fondling a child’s genitals, incest, rape, and the commercial exploitation of children through prostitution, here.

We must push back. The enemy will take—and has taken—all of the ground we concede.

No, love isn’t always love. The word “love” has been hijacked and weaponized. No, love isn’t always love. You absolutely have the ability to choose who you love. That’s the upside to free will. And, no, love isn’t always love… sometimes it’s perversion.
5 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All


bottom of page